Thursday, February 15, 2007

Needs to be said

I was talking to someone about overweight and fat and losing weight and it stayed on my mind.
One thing that came out of the conversation was that some overweight people are extremely sensitive to any reference to their weight.
I don't necessarily understand that extreme sensitivity.
I wondered if the reason for that extreme sensitivity and the fact that one comment can devastate an overweight person so much, is because when it comes down to it, by acting devastated, maybe they (the overweight) think that the person making the comment is right, and that that person knows everything about them (the overweight person) and knows what they're (the overweight person) about.
That doesn't make sense to me.
To give over your power so much to people.
Just ANY random person can make a comment about weight if you are overweight and your world falls apart.
No way!
There is 'something more' going on there...
That 'SOMETHING MORE' is not the responsibility of others around the overweight.
That is something that needs to be healed from the inside.
So cutting oneself off from people for fear that they will say something (even something constructive), or think something, or look at you, or anything about your weight....is really non-productive.
That being said, it must be a struggle to get into the mode of RIGHT THINKING, but it needs to happen regardless of how hard it is.....

5 comments:

WMS said...

perhaps the key is finding safe people to give you constructive critisism.

Anonymous said...

If a person is Extremely sensitive to all comments regarding weight, then no one will seem safe...
How will they even want to venture out to FIND a safe person
There is something inside that needs healing first...

WMS said...

I agree... often, the internal healing can start in 12 step programs. It did for me.

Anonymous said...

word. fat apologists annoy me. either they're cool with it or they're not... and if they're not why should they expect others to be? not my prob.

Anonymous said...

WORD...

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